DON'T MAKE A WRONG CHOICE

DON'T MAKE A WRONG CHOICE.
_By Gbile Akanni

While in our youth days, after our graduation from the university, we were posted for service. A vibrant Christian Brother and l reported at our service centre. Not long after our arrival, some people organised a welcome party for NYSC (Corpers), where we were both invited. Immediately, l said ‘’NO’’, we’re God’s children, we don’t attend worldly parties. They replied, ‘’you are S.U, you are old-school, you are swegbe’’. At this junction my friend couldn’t take a stand for the Lord. He made a choice. He said to me, Bro Gbile please let’s not do so, let’s attend, it’s just a party nothing more. But l insisted on my decision.

So, he honoured their invitation. According to him, seated at the dancing hall, he was offered a bottle of alcohol. He rejected it and demanded for a bottle of Malt. While he was drinking, a lady walked up to him and said, ‘’how can you a man be drinking malt? Even me, a girl could finish a bottle of Gulder’’ he became ashamed. For the first time in his life, he requested for a glass of alcohol. To shorten the long tragic story, just a glass of beer took him away from Christ. Every effort l made to restore him to the faith was to no avail.

Many years later, l saw him, hardly could l recognise him. He was so haggard and battered. His life was a mirage. His marriage ruined, and destiny shattered. Then he looked at my face and said, ‘’Bro Gbile l envy you. What you are now is what l could have been, but look at where l am today. I wish l could reverse the choice l made’’ Then he stood weeping profusely. Though l prayed and restored him to Christ, but the lost ground and the wasted years he never recovered. Not too long he died.
 

I believe this is why the Holy Spirit has strongly laid it on my heart to reach the youths at this end of the age. Though your destiny is precious and very bright, but it is contested. The ground the devil wins in your life today is where he will pitch his tent tomorrow. Now l see Jesus the mighty warrior, with all his power and might ready to save you, but it seems the enemy is saying, you are old enough to choose for yourself. The choice to win or lose is yours. In order to be victorious in the battle for the young, you must accept

Jesus into your heart NOW THAT YOU ARE YOUNG.

#GbileAkanni
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Who is a Good Husband

Who is a Good Husband?

The best answer to this question lies in the mouth of the woman... And the determinant of the answer lies in the decision of the woman too. I just discovered every man is a product of women decision maritally... Oh yes!! No man can force a woman to marry him; and for marriage to happen somebody said "YES" and the person that says yes must be ready to take the responsibility of whatever goes wrong... 

 

You are saying yes to someone whom you have really considered to be okay for your choice not a stranger. It's unfortunate that many women are blinded by material things and allow the material to influence their decision.... And, tomorrow she will be wailing and complaining here and there...  You must have weighed him in character, caring, and maturity wise to avoid story that touches the heart before deciding to say yes; hence meeting up to your standard. Every man is at the mercy of every woman decisions, therefore to have a good husband is the duty and 100% responsibility of the woman. 

 

You choose who you want and if you are sincere to yourself  should know what your life want and shouldn't compromise. We have many type of men possessing different characters.. Riche men but very bad character. Rich men with good sense of reasoning but women beater. Rich men, good looking, but too stingy. Poor men but wonderful character and caring spirit.  hardworking men with good character but too ugly. Etc.. 

 

Your decision therefore will be according to what your life desires . The point is this and clear, you decide who to marry and whom you married determine what you want ...don't come tomorrow to complain. We have good men but empty pockets but not hopeless. Make your choice wisely..

Why Problems

WHY PROBLEMS?

Life is full of problems—sickness, accidents, financial problems, family problems, loss of loved ones, and on and on the list goes. “Hasn’t there been some sort of mistake here?” we ask. “If God truly is love, as the Bible says in 1 John 4:8, and if He truly cares for us like a father, as the Bible says many times, then why all these problems?”

The first thing to understand is that God doesn’t cause these problems; they are the result of people’s bad decisions—others’ or our own. God doesn’t cause our problems, but He does allow them to befall us, and for reasons that are nearly as varied as the problems themselves. Sometimes He uses them to remind us how incapable we are of solving our own problems, so we will turn to Him for help. 

 

Sometimes He lets them happen so He can show us how much He loves us by working things out. Sometimes they happen to test and strengthen our faith. Sometimes they happen to make us pray more earnestly. Sometimes they happen to teach us lessons of patience or positiveness in the face of adversity. Sometimes they happen to keep us humble. 

 

Sometimes they happen to make us wiser. Sometimes they happen to help us appreciate our other blessings and all the problems we don’t have. Sometimes they happen to draw us closer to others who are going through similar things. There are all kinds of reasons for troubles, but whatever the reason, God always wants to turn them for our ultimate good. “All things work together for good to those who love God.”

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1 Corinthians 10:13 ESV / No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.

John 16:33 ESV / I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.”

Romans 12:1-2 ESV / I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.

Onyedikachi Kingsley Ogbonna (Surv.)

MARRIAGE GUIDELINES FOR SINGLES PART 3

 GUIDELINES FOR SINGLES

 

We just had our FAMILY CONFERENCE this week.I won't give you the gist for MARRIED COUPLES now until you get there. So I don't corrupt you. But one thing I'll tell you is that in marriage, the husband should know the first need of his wife,and d wife also should know the first need of her hubby.

 

The first need of the wife is AFFECTION.Always say nice things about your wife,compliment her,show her that you care for her.Say nice thing to her when she puts on a nice wear or wears a new hairdo.All these "flexys" is for you.When the food is good, appreciate her and say "Thanks honey" for the sweet delicacy. Even if it's not sweet,still eat the whole thing and chew all the bones, lick soup. You can then get to "the other room" and tell her to improve on the cooks, but not in d open . Take her out to see movies.

 

Take her to eat out at good restaurants once in a while.Do you know what day does to her? By taking her to a good eatery, you make her feel honoured, as you allowed someone to be waiting on her to take her orders. It saves her from staying in DAT hog kitchen all the time, and she comes out sweating,and smelling of Maggi cubes and crayfish.Celebrate her birthdays,wedding anniversary,change her wedding ring regularly And to you the wifey, the best need of the husband is good sex. 

 

Hmmmmmm I heard you sighing. Now don't be too spiritual and holy,and condemn me that I am dirty. Forget about those things people say,that the best need of man is good food/respect/etc. Men are sight creatures, while women are feeling/emotional creatures.If a woman had a bad morning with d hubby st home,I tell ya,her whole day is messed up; whereas the man can go to work and have a great day, because of the day he's wired/compartmentalised. 

 

Let a man tell you he's tired and goes to lie down in bed pretending he's sleeping; but let the wife come around to be by his side, the wife would be shocked to see that the man pretending to be asleep just wakes up. 

 

Don't start guessing what follows of Friends, we all know that marriage is earthly, no marriage in heaven. But while here on earth,leg us use these earthly principles to make our marriages to be heaven on earth. GOD BLESS OUR HOMES IJMN! Amen!

MARRIAGE GUIDELINES FOR SINGLES PART 2

GUIDELINES FOR SINGLES PART 2

One other point us the area of managing finance/money.Let it be open,and plan what to do with the common purse together and agree together.I tell you,if it's the wife that can manage money well (as most godly women are prudent),let her be the one the one that controls  purse.It does not belittle d man.

You  man being the head of the family is only for responsibility/effective management/accountability coordination;so that there'll not be chaos in d family,having two pilots controlling the aircraft. It dies not make you the best in everything.Rooney is not the best player in the English team,but he is the captain just because he can rally/manage his other team members together. 

 

In fact fans boo him at times when he comes into the pitch to pray. I only got to know this principle after 18 years of our marriage.Before then,whenever I had money, I'll first attend to other people/friends/etc  that has problems,giving them almost all my money,; and now left with small for the family. And when the money has "flown away," because money has wings and can fly (go search your Bible to know where this is),my family will now be left to suffer. 

 

Now,I've left the family purse with my wife.This is what works for me o. It might not be for all.But it is better to learn from my mistake of 18:years,so that you don't fall into it at all.PLEASE NO LAF ME O! GOD BLESS U.

MARRIAGE GUIDELINES FOR SINGLES

MARRIAGE GUIDELINES FOR SINGLES

  

Marry a believer.No agreement between light and darkness,oil and water.Don't be in a hurry,saying there's no time,and then marry outside the Body of Christ.U are not in a race with anybody.There's a covenant blessing when you marry a believer,and there's a familiar spirit that trails people that are not covering children to their marriages 

 

(2)Do not marry in a way of sexual passion.I mean, do not marry just because you want sex.Others marry because they want children,or social status. After you've gotten the sex u wanted, he/she can then abandon u.U marry because   u want to be one flesh/one team.Never confuse sex with love.Prostitute sell their body to customers for sex,they don't love d customer 

 

(3) Do not marry to solve a problem,say,financial problem,etc.After that problem is solved,another one will come up.There'll always be challenges in relationship.

(4) Do not expect that it is marriage that will make u happy.If u are a sad person b4 marriage, you'll still remain sad after marriage. U are complete without marriage.

(5)Do not marry an image.I mean, do not marry  personality. Some say,I want to marry a doctor,some say a pastor or a sportsman. 

(6)Do not marry someone who promises u he'll change when he/she marries u.If he/she wants to change,let him/her change now.I know we all have character flaws.But if a man has strong anger or can't manage money,don't expect him to change after marriage.

 

(7)Do not marry someone that is extremely jealous-someone that cannot stand you visiting your friends and families,or can't stand talking to them on phone. Such a one is dangerous.

(8)Investigate before u invest.What do I mean? Know the person u want to marry before you say "I do." Know what he does for a living,how much he earns where he lives,know his family members.Be sure he is responsible and can take card of the home,by the use of his hand and brain.If he is not transparent in sharing all these with u,he is not ready to become one body wit u.

 

(9)Do not marry someone that is not accountable or submissive to anybody-not submissive to his pastor,his father/mother, an uncle or somebody u know u can report him to when he starts misbehaving.
I tell u,it's better to marry late than rush into it and regret later. If only we are careful and observant, we'll see the signs of some of the character traits of the woman or man you are buying into during courtship. We don't just heed d warnings/signs then. 

Let me know your comments,if any, for or against any of the points.SHALOM!