Wednesday 21 December 2016

ENEMIES OF SUCCESS

ENEMIES OF SUCCESS






Today’s armies of life coaches and business gurus often seem to build their strategies on a fundamental bit of advice from the 6th-century bc Chinese general Sun Tzu in his treatise, The Art of War—“Know your enemy.” Not until we identify and understand the attitudes and conditions that threaten our success can we take the steps necessary to overcome them.

 

Lack of a clear goal. 

“What often leads to failure,” says entrepreneur and consultant Joseph Ansanelli, “is [the absence of] a well understood, small set of very important goals.”

“If you don’t know where you’re going, you’ll wind up somewhere else.”—Yogi Berra

 

Lack of a plan. 

It’s okay to dream of building castles in the air, but they won’t become realities without a realistic step-by-step plan for putting them there. Today we have space stations, but they didn’t just happen.

“He who fails to plan, plans to fail.”—Author unknown

 

Lack of focus. 

Various things can contribute to lack of focus, including low motivation, a poor work environment, or being distracted by matters of lesser priority. Identify interferences and determine how to best deal with each.

“One reason so few of us achieve what we truly want is that we never direct our focus; we never concentrate our power. Most people dabble their way through life.”—Anthony Robbins

 

Laziness. 

You can have a great idea and even a great plan for achieving it, but if you lack the necessary dedication or aren’t willing to put in the work, the idea and plan are doomed.

“Some people dream of success, while others wake up and work hard at it.”—Author unknown

 

Rigidity. 

Few things undermine initiative and progress worse than holding on to the way things have been done in the past.

“A closed mind is not only closed to outside thoughts, it is often closed to itself as well. It is closed to new thoughts and anything that threatens the status quo. But if you can open the doors, maybe just a crack at first, the ideas that have been patiently waiting at your gates will flood in.”—David Straker and Graham Rawlinson, How to Invent (Almost) Anything

Lack of enthusiasm. If an idea is like a spark, enthusiasm is the wind that whips it into a bonfire strong enough to withstand the rain of adversity.

“Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.”—Winston Churchill

 

Accepting defeat.

Very often, the battle is lost in the mind before the real action even begins. Expect defeat, and you are already defeated; hope to win, and you give yourself a chance; expect to win, and you increase your chances exponentially. Even the most seemingly impossible situation can be overcome if approached positively, as a challenge.

“Success seems to be largely a matter of hanging on after others have let go.”—William Feather

 

Complacency. 

The greatest danger often comes when things are running smoothly and the pressure is off, because the natural tendency then is to not try as hard. It may be possible to coast for a while, but valuable momentum will be lost; if left unchecked, things will grind to a halt.

“There is a very fine line between confidence and complacency. If you win the first game against a team, the worst thing you can do is fool yourself into thinking that the second game will be easier.”—Dave McGinnis

 

Overconfidence.

The hare and the tortoise, the giant Goliath and the boy David, the Titanic—you get the picture.

“Before you attempt to beat the odds, be sure you could survive the odds you’re beating.”—Larry Kersten

 

Procrastination.

The most capable people in the world, with the best ideas in the world and all the financial backing in the world, will get nowhere until they take action.

“There are a million ways to lose a work day, but not even a single way to get one back.”—Tom DeMarco and Timothy Lister

 

Disunity. 

Joint efforts rarely come to full fruition without reasonable levels of consensus and compatibility, so work at building those. Then when opposing ideas and interests emerge, rather than becoming stumbling blocks, they can be used as stepping stones.

“Honest differences of views and honest debate are not disunity. They are the vital process of policy making.”—Herbert Hoover

 

Moral compromise. 

The credo of some seems to be “All is fair in love, war, business, and life,” but what works is not always what’s right. Victories won immorally are shallow, usually short-lived, and often have consequences that cancel any success. “Whatever a man sows, that he will also reap.”

“Success is more permanent when you achieve it without destroying your principles.”—Walter Cronkite

Failure to learn from mistakes. Victory is very often decided according to who has learned the most from past mistakes.

“The real test is not whether you avoid failure, because you won’t. It’s whether you let it harden or shame you into inaction, or whether you learn from it; whether you choose to persevere.”—Barack Obama











Onyedikachi Kingsley Ogbonna (Surv.)

BLANK SPACES

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It has been said that when it comes to helping those we care about, prayer is not the least we can do, but the most. The Bible promises, “This is the confidence that we have in [God], that if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us. And if we know that He hears us, whatever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we have asked of Him.” That’s a lot of power!
There are many times during the day when our thoughts wander aimlessly, and those thoughts usually involve others—friends, family, colleagues, or those we’ve crossed paths with or heard about in the news. Perhaps you are stuck in traffic, or you have your hands in dishwater, or are taking a walk, or are waiting to fall asleep at night. When you find yourself in one of these blank spots and someone springs to mind, instead of only thinking about that person, turn your thoughts into a prayer.
Instead of wondering how your nephew is doing in school, pray for him to excel and be happy. Instead of wondering if your mother is recovering from the flu, pray for her healing. Instead of worrying about your friend who just lost his job, pray for him to not be discouraged and to find a new one.
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By making a conscious effort to direct your thoughts to God and ask for His help, you will not only be giving a great gift to those you care about, but you’re likely to find greater peace of mind yourself. The more situations you ask God to take care of, the less you will have to worry about. “Cast all your anxieties on Him, for He cares about you.”
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Philippians 4:6-7 ESV – Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
1 Peter 5:6-7 ESV – Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you, casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.
Hebrews 13:6 ESV – So we can confidently say, “The Lord is my helper; I will not fear; what can man do to me?”
Onyedikachi Kingsley Ogbonna (Surv.)

SUCCESS WITH PEOPLE

SUCCESS WITH PEOPLE







Look for the good in others.

Philippians 4:8: Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.

Titus 3:2: To speak evil of no one, to be peaceable, gentle, showing all humility to all men.

 

Treat others the way you want to be treated.

Matthew 7:2–5: For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you. And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye’; and look, a plank is in your own eye? Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.

Matthew 7:12: Therefore, whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.

Luke 6:31–33: And just as you want men to do to you, you also do to them likewise. But if you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners love those who love them. And if you do good to those who do good to you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners do the same.

 

Show understanding to those who are weaker.

Romans 15:1–2: We then who are strong ought to bear with the scruples of the weak, and not to please ourselves. Let each of us please his neighbor for his good, leading to edification.

Galatians 6:1: Brethren, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness, considering yourself lest you also be tempted.

 

Be winsome; dwell on points of agreement.

Romans 14:19: Therefore let us pursue the things which make for peace and the things by which one may edify another.

1 Corinthians 9:19–22: For though I am free from all men, I have made myself a servant to all, that I might win the more; and to the Jews I became as a Jew, that I might win Jews; to those who are under the law, as under the law, that I might win those who are under the law; to those who are without law, as without law (not being without law toward God, but under law toward Christ), that I might win those who are without law; to the weak I became as weak, that I might win the weak. I have become all things to all men, that I might by all means save some.

 

Be patient and forgiving, as God is with us.

Psalm 103:8–10: The Lord is merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in mercy. He will not always strive with us, nor will He keep His anger forever. 10 He has not dealt with us according to our sins, nor punished us according to our iniquities.

Matthew 18:21–22: Then Peter came to Him and said, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?” Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.”

Ephesians 4:32: And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.







Onyedikachi Kingsley Ogbonna (Surv.)

APPRECIATE THE GOOD

APPRECIATE THE GOOD








After I commented on my blog about a Christian song that I had found particularly inspiring, someone wrote and asked if I was aware of certain personal details about the singer/songwriter. I wasn’t, and learning these things about him came as a bit of a surprise.

I still appreciate the song, though, and I don’t feel that this man’s lifestyle choices change the fact that the song contains a beautiful truth. I’m thankful for the way that song moved me, and for how it is reaching people with God’s love.

We don’t have to embrace everything about a person in order to appreciate the good that he or she does. If we can take on this attitude, it will help us to be less exclusive and to find common ground with people who are different from us.

If we judged everyone according to things they have done that we don’t agree with, or by the sins they may have committed, we would miss out on a lot of very good things. We would have to reject the book of Psalms, because the author of most of those psalms, King David, plotted an innocent man’s death. And we couldn’t appreciate Moses’ leadership or the five books of the Bible that were authored by him because he killed a man in a moment of anger. We wouldn’t appreciate and benefit from a good deal of the New Testament, either, because the apostle Peter denied Jesus, and the apostle Paul persecuted some of the first Christians before he found Jesus. We would have little inspired music if we started to dissect the lives of those who wrote or produced each song. For that matter, we’d have very little in life that we could appreciate or benefit from, because no one is perfect. Where would we draw the line?

The point is, when we see a beautiful piece of art or hear some beautiful music, we can appreciate it and the inspiration behind it. Even if the artist or composer didn’t know where that inspiration was coming from, we do. “Every good and perfect gift is from above, and comes down from the Father of lights.”

Think about Jesus’ interactions with mankind when He lived as one of us. He welcomed people who had made choices that He certainly didn’t agree with. Those things weren’t what mattered to Him. What mattered was that they wanted His love, and He gave it freely. If Jesus, perfect and without sin, was that accepting and welcoming of everyone, how can we do less?

Psalm 31:19 ESV – Oh, how abundant is your goodness, which you have stored up for those who fear you and worked for those who take refuge in you, in the sight of the children of mankind!

Psalm 27:13 ESV – I believe that I shall look upon the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living!

James 1:17 ESV – Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change.








Onyedikachi Kingsley Ogbonna (Surv.)

Saturday 17 December 2016

WORK SMART

WORK SMART


One of the best things to keep in mind when organizing your work is to not give yourself more to do than you can manage. Set priorities and work through your to-do list at a sustainable pace, starting with the most important or urgent items and doing what you can each day. Then you will have the satisfaction of knowing you used your time and energy wisely, and you will be that much closer to your goals when you start work the next day.

Getting the job done right is the most important thing. Accuracy is more important than speed. Typing tutors emphasize that speed will come with practice, and the same is true of most work. Over time, positive results will come more easily and quickly, and eventually they will come almost automatically. Don’t rush or push; just focus on getting it right, and as you gain experience, you will naturally gain speed.

Racehorses can spurt for a few rounds around the track, but that’s it. They’re extremely high-strung and not good workhorses. Pack mules and donkeys, on the other hand, are plodders and load carriers. You cannot rush them, but they can carry heavier loads and negotiate trails that horses would never survive. Some people struggle at their work because they approach it like a racehorse rather than a pack mule.

Other people’s troubles stem from the fact that they have no regularity, no schedule, no scientific organization. If they would keep a chart or spreadsheet or even a simple prioritized list, they would know at a moment’s glance where their work was at and what to concentrate on next. Getting and staying organized may seem like extra work, but it saves a lot of work in the long run.

That is also the best way to avoid last-minute cramming and the stress that comes with that. Having everything planned and scheduled and charted is a far more effective and pleasant course of action than constantly rushing to meet the next deadline.

Most large companies have what they call “efficiency experts” or “time management consultants” who hang over the shoulders of the workers to figure out how they could do their jobs better, cheaper, or faster, as well as what they’re doing that they don’t need to do. You can do that for yourself too. By planning your work, keeping records, and evaluating the results, you can significantly improve your work habits and productivity. Now that is working smart!

2 Thessalonians 3:10-12 ESV – For even when we were with you, we would give you this command: If anyone is not willing to work, let him not eat. For we hear that some among you walk in idleness, not busy at work, but busybodies. Now such persons we command and encourage in the Lord Jesus Christ to do their work quietly and to earn their own living.

Proverbs 14:23 ESV – In all toil there is profit, but mere talk tends only to poverty.

Proverbs 12:24 ESV – The hand of the diligent will rule, while the slothful will be put to forced labor.


Onyedikachi Kingsley Ogbonna (Surv.)

BE A MAXIMIZER

BE A MAXIMIZER

Most people, it seems, fall into one of three broad groups when it comes to their level of dedication and initiative, their work ethic, and how much they’re able to accomplish.

These three groups are the minimizers, the maintainers, and the maximizers. Minimizers do as little as they can get away with, and maintainers do only what is needed to maintain the status quo, but maximizers are ready and willing to go the distance; they are focused on moving closer to their goal, even though they know it will cost them in time and energy.

Maximizers are the cream of the crop. They take initiative, are proactive, are the first to respond to a need or adapt to changing circumstances, and give their best at whatever they do. It comes as no surprise, then, that maximizers are generally more successful than their less committed counterparts.

There is no simple formula for becoming a maximizer, but there are some basic principles that apply almost universally.

Put in the hours. Maximizers don’t watch the clock. To be maximizers, we must be willing to work long and hard, within reasonable limits, and sometimes do so in less-than-ideal conditions. Ancient Israel’s King Solomon, who was himself a maximizer when it came to things as varied as his building projects, pursuing wisdom, and (perhaps less wisely) acquiring wives and concubines, put it this way: “Lazy people want much but get little, while the diligent are prospering,” and, “The lazy man will not plow because of winter; [therefore] he will beg during harvest and have nothing.” Finding a balance is essential. The goal is not to become a work-aholic, but if we want the maximum results from any venture, it stands to reason that we need to put in more than a minimum of work.

Have a good work ethic and self-discipline. Cultivating a good work ethic, good work habits, and self-discipline are all crucial to becoming a maximizer. We should look for opportunities to renew our commitment to excellence through constantly challenging ourselves to stretch and grow. Good work habits include such things as planning ahead, prioritizing, wisely delegating, learning from mistakes, and remaining flexible. Maximizers have a purpose. They are driven to accomplish something beyond the norm, and they realize that to be successful at it they need to make sacrifices.

Share the load. Maximizers work hard, but they are wise enough to know that their own efforts alone will never achieve the maximum results possible, and they are humble enough to solicit the help of others. They see the potential in others, delegate what they can, and inspire their coworkers to strive to be maximizers too. And if they are really smart, they also share the load with God by involving Him at every step in the endeavor, knowing that the inspiration, insight, and strength He can add will get them much farther than they could ever get on their own. They believe in the power of prayer and understand that God can help them reach their objective, even—and especially—when circumstances are beyond their control. They ask for His blessing at every turn, follow His lead, and depend on Him to do what they can’t do.

Abandon the comfort zones. Being a maximizer involves some discomfort. If we continue to do only the things we’ve always done, the way we’ve always done them, we can’t expect greater results. To accomplish more, we need to reach farther or in new directions; we need to pursue new ideas and develop new strengths and abilities. It’s easy to settle into a routine or to rest on one’s accomplishments, but the maximizer is always on the lookout for a new challenge, a new opportunity, and new ways to break out of the mold. When he finds one, he goes for it.

Be a team player. The maximizer looks for ways to serve the common good, to not only accomplish his own work, but also to help others on his team accomplish theirs. He knows that by giving in this way he is building team spirit, which will maximize his own efforts in the long run and cause others to be more willing to help him when he needs it.

Stay strong. Good health and being free from stress make you more productive, so taking time to take care of yourself is a good investment. Eat well, sleep well, exercise, and take time to relax and reflect.

Thank God for the good. Even if you do your best to follow the maximizer’s creed of giving your best, you can’t necessarily expect huge results right from the start—but you can expect to make progress. Focus on and be thankful for the gains, rather than dwelling on what there is left to do.

Colossians 3:23 NIV – Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men.

2 Timothy 2:15 ESV – Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who has no need to be ashamed, rightly handling the word of truth.

1 Corinthians 9:24-25 ESV – Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one receives the prize? So run that you may obtain it. Every athlete exercises self-control in all things. They do it to receive a perishable wreath, but we an imperishable.


Onyedikachi Kingsley Ogbonna (Surv.)

SERVANTS BE MINDFUL ABOUT YOUR VISION"

SERVANTS BE MINDFUL ABOUT YOUR VISION"
One aspect of Delilah that broke my guard was her food!  ‘Delicious’ was an understatement when it comes to her dishes...  as soon as she came, my fasting life died!  The grace of fasting just dissipated.  At 6.00am, she woke me up with a cup of cold juice, then followed with ‘fries’ – it could be fried chicken, fried turkey; fried goat meat; fried fish, fried snails and other bush meat from their country home of Gaza. Her service was another thing!  She never delegated my food to house girls, she brought it herself:  She never served me standing.  She went on her two knees and pulled me by the ear with the pet name she coined for me: “Sam, the Great”...  “Great is my Samson”! I also responded with “Del, the Den” My head swells up any time she tickles me with her finger and whispers “Sam, the Great”, but my heart shrinks.  Some measure of anointing just drop off my spirit... She perfected my drinking spree, she never rushed me to finish a bottle. She knows how to mix different grill of wine. She served me sip by sip; “sip by sip’,  I wouldn’t know when I have finished five bottles.  She had all the time.  She gave me full time attention!  I never begged her for sex. She satisfied me to the full.  I was the one who usually begged her to release me.  I had no need to go out any more. She was never boring! She changed her dresses like chameleon, with assorted perfumes. As soon as I married Delilah, I was also a full time ‘househusband’.   I never went for raids any more.  You know before now, despite my backsliding; these were occasions when the Spirit will remind me of my call: and  my call was to kill and route out the Philistines from our Father’s land.  I will just jump up and go furiously looking for any Philistine’s camp to raid.  That was my own form of  evangelism. All of this finished for me.  I began to actually cherish the Philistines.  I reasoned: ‘why should we insist they leave the land?’ I began to propose a co-existence with these uncircumcised. Besides, I had put on so much weight that I could not carry myself easily about again.  I had no disciple to send or any army that I have raised and taught the principles of warfare.  I did not transfer the anointing to anyone.  I was a loner.  I was alone, now trapped between the breast and the lap of ‘Del, the Den’. When I proposed that we should have children, Delilah objected, saying the honeymoon had not finished; besides Children will interrupt our “love play” too early.  Little did I know she was planning to cut me short out of the land of the living.  That was why I had no descendant or do you know any of my sons that I gave birth to? My father’s name perished in Israel with me.  I squandered my father’s inheritance,  I left no next of kin.  I was a useless son to my father and my cherished mother Manoah’s name had since been forgotten in our tribe of Dan... Delilah occupied me so much, I forgot my calling; I lost my vision and  I lost contact with my people.  None of them could visit me while Delilah was around, she stood at the gate and told them I was sleeping and none should disturb me. She cut me off from all who would have reinforced my life in fellowship; all who would have prayed with me, she estranged me from!  She got me isolated from my roots. the so occupied me with vanities,........
to be continued.

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